Blind dates and setups aside, theres hope out there these days by way of the Internet. Online dating once came with a stigma that nearly outweighed the benefits of actually finding a partner in the first place.
Most assumed the sites to be the equivalent of a dark alley: full of smelly trash and frequented by urine-soaked cat ladies and crazy paint-sniffing men.
A concept once met with some trepidation, the idea of alternatively meeting mates has matured, and accounts for one out of five new committed relationships, according to match.com.
The busy-ness of dating
Online dating provides a viable and extensive alternative to a dank alleyway or urine-soaked anything (unless thats your thing).
In fact, the physicality of the situation is completely up to you. So, go ahead and do your dating homework and fill out your profile in your pajamas.
Reading her responses to profile questions [on eHarmony], I knew I found someone I could communicate with really well and would really enjoy talking to, said Brian Eyerman, founder of Skyline Ink Animation Studios.
She seemed intelligent and passionate about life, and we had a lot in common. And weve never run out of things to talk about! Eyerman met up with Lu Richardson 11 days after their first correspondence, and they got married exactly six months after their first date, which was at Saturn Grill. That was eight years ago.
Our lives werent bringing
us into the paths of single people with similar interests. We werent
looking for a date. We were looking for something meaningful, said
likely the most precious commodity you invest in, and sharing it with a
complete stranger to find out youve actually not a shred in common is
not putting said time to adequate use.
this fast-paced life comes complete with a plethora of resources to
help a person maintain quality in an efficient way.
Dating is no different.
You wouldnt buy a TV without reading reviews. You wouldnt purchase a
book without reading the back cover. Why would you
ever go on a date without testing for basic compatibility?
live in an apartment downtown and will be starting a family soon. We
love nature and art and animals, and were close to our families
common interests we discovered up-front on eHarmony, said
Yes, were the cheesy people in the TV commercials. Cheesy and wouldnt have it any other way, said Eyerman.
And when it comes to building a long lasting relationship,
common ground likely is the most important thing. Dont think that
online dating sites restrict the proclivity of love via the web.
Gamers, you, too, can have a storybook ending. Just ask Chesapeake Energy applications developer/analyst Jerry Nguyen.
expectation of every player you encounter is the stereotypical
assumptions that popular culture has of people who play [massively
multiplayer online game]: male, 35-plus, overweight, unemployed. Looking
for a significant other on an MMO is literally a shot in the dark,
him, Megan Thomason had him at Ventrilo. (Thats a voice-over Internet
protocol program for those not up on MMO terminology.)
Megan and I encountered each other in-game, it was particularly odd
that she kept whispering me. The moment I heard her voice and realized
she was a woman, a different type of attraction triggered: She was a
woman and very skilled at this game, he said.
said that that their communication began to progress to talking outside
the game via chat to webcam to texting and talking on the phone.
opportunity to meet in person was very spontaneous [about three months
later], he said. She was moving to Dallas from New Jersey and didnt
have anyone to keep her company on the long car ride. I bought a plane
ticket for the first flight the following morning to Philadelphia.
In October 2010, Thomason moved to Oklahoma City. This fall, theyll celebrate three years together.
Sick of kissing frogs?
People are holding off on marriage longer than ever, according to the Census Bureau. And with alarming divorce rates, it's always a good idea to be certain of that big step. Jane Atkinson, author of Frog Whisperer: A 3-Step Approach to Finding Lasting Love, offers a few steps to avoid the toads.
1. Figure out what you're looking for.
Visualize what you're doing with that perfect person. Are you wine-tasting and pinky-popping while distinguishing that near-indistinguishable note in a full-bodied red? Then you probably don't want to date a person who doesn't drink.
2. Get happy in your own head.
Are you a miserable person who constantly spews negativity? Keep that to yourself, then. Or better yet, seek resolution.
3. Think you're ready? Test yourself!
Are you happy with yourself?
Are you looking for someone to rescue you or take care of you?
Do you have room in your life for a relationship?
Has enough time passed since your last relationship?
4. Now, get yourself fabulous.
Be the best you. Take an inventory of your attributes and decide whether you're attracting the right person.
5. Get out there!
Complaining about how you never meet people of interest? What'd you do last night? Oh, you sat on the couch.